Having the courage to follow your heart is what makes a man a real man. What the world around you says and does - it doesn't matter. All will come to pass. People come and people go. They won't be with you forever. At the end of the day, it's only what you think that matters. Aint no one else is gonna be stuck with what you run in your head - it's gonna be just you, you alone, experiencing the full impact of your own thoughts through your time on this planet. Boy, do I pray you have the discipline to remove self-defeating thoughts and ya..grow be a real man.